Kwan Yin Healing: Better Health and Happiness are possible--now

Healing Key #10: Making a Choice to Heal and Be Healthy

Healing starts when motivation kick-starts the healing process

A few years back, I ran into Howard Jacobson by chance one afternoon–he had been leading a seminar on time management I had joined. He had a terrible case of the flu, and was due to present at Kripalu the next day (he has co-authored whole food books with “China Study” expert Colin Campbell). “Can you do anything about this?” he asked.

I had a busy back-to-back day, but I looked at my schedule. “I can do 20 minutes right now,” I offered. He accepted, and lay back, reacting exactly how one might expect someone suffering from flu–basically closed his eyes and caught a semi-nap. He thanked me for trying, and went about his day.

But connective healing is systemic. 4 a.m. the next morning, he told me after, “I woke up, felt terrific, booked a plane and did my seminar at Kripalu.”

Later, I asked him: “Howard, back then, when you didn’t know me very well, why did you agree to have an impromptu healing session?” He thought for just a moment, and gave this perfect response:

“If you’re sick, and a talented healer offers to work on you, and you say ‘no,’ — you’re just telling the Universe you want to be sick.” And that’s an important point — how much of healing is in fact the choices we make, to be healthy or not, to pursue healing or not.

Is it time to heal yet? Is it the perfect time yet? Or ever?

Don't suffer in pain -- take action

From time to time I have a conversation with a prospective client who is suffering long-term pain, and often these folks decide to continue on in pain. It’s not the cost — even when I’ve tried experiments like offering money-back guarantees in various offers, often people still won’t step into healing.

When I was just starting out, I was a member of a CRPS group (Complex Regional Pain Syndrome — a very painful condition). A year or so in, like many new business owners, I realized my fees weren’t realistic, and I announced an upcoming adjustment. It was pretty small, but someone still posted angrily about making healing too costly for people who need it.

“OK,” I responded. “Tell you what — I’ll give away free healing sessions to the first ten people who respond.” How many people do you think jumped on that bandwagon? If you guessed “Zero,” you’re getting the picture here. Yep. Not a single one . . . not even the person who originally raised the issue.

There are a lot of ways to read that, I know . . . but bottom line, they chose “No healing, thank you very much.” And this happens far more than one might think.

Healing is not a spectator sport — why don’t we enter the game?

 Healing doesn't happen by itself -- you must make the decision to heal

When I was new to healing, I used to think people would be concerned it wouldn’t work.
Actually, they are far more often concerned it WILL work! Makes no sense? Not rationally, but it’s an emotional factor. If, after all this suffering, suddenly healing becomes possible, that changes someone’s world view — and generally people resist altering their world view (we can see this starkly in politics, for instance).

I will admit that when I first started healing work, I saw and experienced things I wouldn’t have believed — and it was sometimes difficult to process these challenges to my “rational” belief system. I had to face that my conclusions about reality weren’t accurate. And healing is often very much a new reality for people.

Then there’s the Comfort Zone — we like to do things and in a way that we find comfortable. But there’s nothing comfortable about the Comfort Zone — it’s a myth. First, staying suspended from external reality while perpetuating comfort simply doesn’t happen. Things will change, with or without your consent. And as we cling to a fantasy version of reality, that change can be especially disruptive: “Why does everything always happen to me?” And second, camping out in this known and familiar but uncomfortable comfort zone prevents us from moving into healing.

How do we know what choices to make? “What’s right for me?”

When we don't pursue healing, we unknowingly make a decision NOT to heal.

It’s easy to dismiss healing as “not for people like me.” It’s for those New Age-y people. Or it’s for people who aren’t as New Age-y and aware. It works for some, but it’s too hard for people like me. Or it’s not for people my age. Whatever makes us unique.

Yet–to continue to follow what doesn’t work, or that treats only symptoms while never addressing the underlying cause — this is just an agreement to remain unnecessarily in pain. In such cases, the choice is that change is too great a price to pay to heal…and hence, a choice not to heal.

It’s not fate, or poor luck, or even the severity of our circumstances–it’s a decision to reject healing as OK for others, but not acceptable for ourselves. But it is OK. You deserve the same healing others receive. You do, however, have to claim it.

It's not fate, or poor luck, or even the severity of our circumstances--it's a decision to reject healing as OK for others, but not acceptable for ourselves. But it is OK. You deserve the same healing others receive. You do, however, have to claim it.

So where do we find the motivation to step up to our own healing? Some find it in crisis, like an alcoholic or addict “hitting bottom.” Others eventually wake up one morning and decide they’ve had enough, that they’re sick and tired of being sick and tired. But understand that it doesn’t just happen–you have to decide.

Joseph Campbell recognized, from the similarity of our stories and dreams, that we are all the unrecognized hero(ine) of our own story, which he laid out in the Hero’s Journey. First we start out in the ordinary world, as ordinary people. Then there’s a Call to Action. So what does the “hero” do? Rejects the Call.

Harry Potter, living in the cupboard under the stairs, nothing special, gets owl mail from Hogwarts, but accepts he can’t go. Luke Skywalker, a bored kid tinkering with engines on a lonely planet, runs an errand to return to a bombed out home.

Until a mentor enters with new information and a gift:
– “Harry, haven’t you ever made strange things happen? You’re a wizard!”
– “Luke, your father was a Jedi. This was his light saber.”

And armed with this new information and encouragement, the hero Crosses the Threshold out of the ordinary world of the comfortable past and into the magical world of new possibilities. Harry goes to Hogwarts. Luke becomes a Jedi. Neither has any idea he’s on the path to becoming a hero.

It’s that way for us all. We don’t think we’re special. We don’t think these things apply to us. We need someone to come along, to shake the certainty of our misnamed comfort zone, and to encourage us by beginning to awaken us to who we really are so that we cross the threshold into healing, becoming who we were always meant to be, but just didn’t know it.

“Because better health and happiness are possible–now” is not some clever slogan I dreamed up. It’s my core message to you. And I mean it. Every word. How? Through the comprehensive process of programs and healing sessions tailored to your custom needs and particular situation. That’s why the first step is getting together to discuss your needs and goals.

It’s time to heal! You CAN do this–at least make progress at the very least.

But you have to choose to do so. I hope you do. Let’s talk about it.

Tim Emerson
Kwan Yin Healing

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